For husbands and partners: what to do in each trimester
In the first trimester, take over chores and protect her rest. In the second, go to the anomaly scan, plan finances and leave, and start feeling for kicks. In the third, learn the warning signs, install the car seat, pack the bag together and keep your phone charged. Throughout, ask how she's feeling, not only about the baby.
Key facts
| Most important scan to attend | Anomaly scan, 18 to 21 weeks |
|---|---|
| Car seat | Install by 36 weeks |
| Labour role | Time contractions, call the hospital, drive, support |
First trimester (weeks 1 to 13)
She may feel exhausted and sick long before anything shows. Take over cooking if smells bother her, handle strong-smelling chores, and keep the news private until she's ready. Go to the first appointment and the dating scan if you can.
Second trimester (weeks 14 to 27)
Energy often returns. Use it to plan: hospital choice, costs, leave and a simple budget. Go to the anomaly scan. Start the name list together; our name finder covers Arabic, Urdu, Hindi, Bengali, Turkish and English names.
Third trimester (weeks 28 to 40)
- Learn the warning signs, especially reduced movements.
- Install the car seat and do a practice drive to the hospital.
- Pack the hospital bag together.
- Learn to time contractions and the 5-1-1 rule.
In labour
Your job is to stay calm, keep time, speak up for her wishes, and look after practical things: calls, parking, food and water.
Look after her mental health, and yours
Anxiety and low mood are common in pregnancy and after birth, for mothers and fathers. If she seems low most days, or talks about feeling hopeless, encourage her to talk to her doctor. If anyone feels unsafe, call your emergency number.
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Frequently asked questions
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Sources
- NHS: Dads and partners
- UNICEF: Fathers and early childhood
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